Wednesday, June 17, 2009

The Quarter Life Crisis

Last night I received a message from one of my friends from college, "Ever just had one of those uneventful days where you just feel like life is purposely frustrating you?" My response - yes I have. It's called the Quarter Life Crisis.

Defined as (by Wikipedia) the "term applied to the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the early twenties to the early thirties."

If you are plagued with QLC, you might have the following symptoms:

  • feeling "not good enough" because one can't find a job that is at one's academic/intellectual level
  • frustration with relationships, the working world, and finding a suitable job or career
  • disappointment with one's job
  • boredom with social interactions
  • loss of closeness to high school and college friends

  • a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you

  • extreme insecurity

And, to add to the already mounting personal problems, the awesome economy we have today is affecting our emotions as well.

The closer I get to 25, the more I notice all my friends taking off in their careers, getting married or buying a house. Sure, I'm a tad jealous about some things, but I also know that the one thing that connects us all is the constant question of, am I going in the right direction?

When we all graduate, we have this incredible idea of where we will be and where we are going. I'm going to get married and have an awesome career, etc. But, as the saying goes, life doesn't always go as planned. And even if it does, many of us are wondering if its the right career for us or what is the next step. And Real Life steps in.

Our generation is different from our parent's. More is expected of us, we have more choices and financially we're not as well off.

The Remedies:

  • use the value of networking and ask for someone to be your mentor. They can help make the transition into actual adulthood easier and may even be able to offer insight on things they may have done wrong and what they wish they would have done

  • start a blog. Write about what you're feeling and I guarantee a flock of people our age will readily comment about their woes. Also, writing always makes a person feel better

  • look at the decisions we make today as important, but not irreversible

  • write down your goals and plans for the next month, year and five years out and post them where you can see them everyday. It'll keep you on track and show you how far and accomplished you've become (if you don't know exactly where you want to be, find out where you think you'd like to be, i.e., buying a house, moving to a new place, etc.)

  • talk with others on online sites and get some advice from people who have been there and done that

  • realize you are not the only one - we're all in the same spot!

Although I can't guarantee that all this will make you feel 100% better, it'll help. And it'll get you on the right track.

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  1. All solid advice. I'm not sure I understand the hullabaloo about being 25, but I have noticed a number of people talking about this very thing lately, so this seems timely. Let's hope this stuff eases their suffering a bit.

  2. i need to write some goals down, good idea!

    ps hello! :)